I don’t know about you, but several times a year, I write a list of the goals I want to achieve. This process often includes journaling, writing lists, drawing a mind map and/or making a vision board to provide me with a useful visual reminder of my goals.
Some of my recent goals have included going to Italy, writing my next book, losing a few kilos, exercising more, etc.
In all honesty, I have to say that I’ve been more dedicated to some of these goals than others – and the results speak for themselves. Needless to say, I can tick the trip to Italy off as done (although another one would be lovely), but as for losing a few kilos and writing my next book, well that hasn’t quite happened … yet!
So I got to thinking, what is it that makes us so driven to achieve one goal, while others seem to get pushed aside?
I’d been pondering this thought for a while, when I found a new book called The Desire Map: A guide to creating goals with soul by Danielle LaPorte. The book talks about how everything we do is driven by the desire to feel a certain way. In reference to goal setting, the author asks us, “How do you want to feel?” rather than, “What do you want to achieve”. Her rationale is that, ultimately, it’s the FEELING we are pursuing, not the actual achievement itself.
The Desire Map’s guiding premise is:
“Knowing how you actually want to feel is the most potent form of clarity that you can have. Generating those feelings is the most powerfully creative thing you can do with your life.”
I quickly noticed that my current goals are things or achievements which don’t necessarily evoke emotions. I also noticed that, sometimes when I achieve a goal, I’m disappointed that it doesn’t feel as good as I thought it would – it’s not always fulfilling.
She advises us to first identify our core desired feelings, then we are able to create “goals with soul”. That way, we are more connected to the goal and more likely to achieve it.
So that’s my plan for the next 6 weeks or so… to finish reading The Desire Map and get clear on my core desired feelings. Then I can revise my current goals – some may be kept, other will be cast aside.
Without giving too much away, I know I want to feel AMAZING. Now I just need to decide which goals will help me feel that way ….
What do you think of this approach? Is anyone interested in working through The Desire Map with me – maybe forming a Desire Map group?
Please let me know your thoughts in the comments box below. Thanks for your support – I love reading your feedback.
Love, light and blessings to you,
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